peaceful warrior

a good friend of mine got in a cab and told the man where she’d like to go.  immediately, he started yelling at her and complaining about how she could have just taken a shuttle and now he’s not going to make any money and on and on.  she stopped him (absolutely outraged, of course!) and said, “sir. would you like me to get out of the cab??”  he said no because he didn’t think she had any other options at this point and the damage was already done anyway.  so, for the rest of the 20 minute ride she silently steamed as he continued to berate and lecture her.

when the time came for her to pay, she handed the man her credit card and he asked somewhat hopelessly, “would you like to leave a tip?”  I would have laughed in the man’s face! what nerve!  but my friend (my incredible friend) replied, “yes sir.  fifty dollars.”

she said the man just began to weep.

now to be fair, she admitted that she was angry and hurt and absolutely didn’t want to do it, and that a part of her just wanted him to feel like an arse for having treated her so badly. but i don’t tell you that to belittle what she did in any way. i’m telling you that to let you know that she’s no saint. just like you and me, she’s a human being with an internal dialogue that wants to fend for herself and stand up for what seems just rather than mercy.  so the incredible thing is that she chose to put that man before her own pride and honor.  she chose to humble herself – not knowing what kind of reaction she would receive from the man.  we’re all capable of it…we just don’t all choose it.

that is the kind of woman i want to be – one who chooses humility and love. i am so thankful i have women like her in my life to continually remind me to see beyond people’s harshness into the pain they must hold in their hearts causing them to act that way. you know who you are. thank you.

2 Responses to “peaceful warrior”

  1. 2 Mike D February 26, 2009 at 11:44 pm

    Funny, I was just talking to a friend of mine about this kind of thing tonight. And just like you, that is the person I hope I choose to be in each moment.

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Keep me away from the wisdom which does not cry, the philosophy which does not laugh and the greatness which does not bow before children.
-Kahlil Gibran

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